Toxic relationships

 

 

Relationships are always what makes us feel alive. But often times these relationships cause us a lot of trauma. We all in our lives has relationships. It can be any relationship, your father, mother, co-workers,boss, friends, your lover or any. And every relationship somewhere or where affect our daily lives. Here in this blog we are gonna talk about toxic relationships which you should definitely avoid. Because they can cause you a lot of damage. So let's start..

 Healthy relationship-  Before we know what toxic relationships looks like, you should know what healthy one is. Healthy relationships involves honesty, trust, respect and open communication between people. There's no imbalance of power. People respect each others independence,can make their own decisions without fear of retaliation and share their decisions. If people in your life are supportive to you, respect you, respect your decision, opinion, then definitely you are in healthy relationship. Now let's see the other side.

Toxic relationships- 

Toxic relationships are all the opposite of healthy relationships. These are the relationship where you are always stressed. When you feel, you have to hide what you really need. When you give your all but get very little in return. When you wonder if your hated. When the people you are with care nothing about your time, experience or emotions. Toxic relationships are when you feel emotionally drained,you can't be yourself. It's when you have to think a lot before saying anything so that there would be no more argument. In toxic relationships you can't have personal boundaries and feel like your constantly being judged. Toxic relationship is one that makes you feel unsupported, misunderstood, attacked. Sad thing is we often have these relationships in our families. A relationship is toxic when your well being is threatened in some way emotionally, psychologically and even physically.

Now hearing all this can make you think that how can we fix this or even there's something to fix this kind of relationship. So let me  tell you toxic relationships can be cured, but people from both sides need to do the work. They need to change their behaviour. It's not a one person job. When they will work together to make things easier than it can make a healthy relationships. But most of the time people don't understand each other. 

So here's some advice for people in toxic relationships:-

1 -  Try to tell the person how you really feel. Because open conversation are what needed here. Start with a gentle,one-on-one approach in which you tell the person, how you feel about the way they treat you.

2 - Set limits. Even with a person who has power over you, such as your boss, father or any,you can set limits. Don't let them treat you the way they want whenever. Start to say no when you feel you can't do it. 

3 - Control your responses. Even toxic relationships are a dynamic between two people. Consider how you respond, because you may be continuing the toxicity unwillingly. For example,if you instantly do whatever has been asked of you,you are furthering the toxic relationship. 

4 - End the toxic relationship. This is one final way to handle the situation. If the toxic relationship is with someone who holds an important spot in your life, like husband, father,wife, family or any. However he/she, may say it is important to know your limits. There may come a time when you have to leave the job,stop seeing your friends or file for divorce. 

 So these are some tips from me to handle toxic relationships. Hope it'll be helpful. And may all you have good and healthy relationships.